Saul wanted David to be his son-in-law but David wasn’t
interested. At least until….
The story is told us in 1 Samuel 18. After David’s amazing victory over Goliath,
King Saul wanted him to be a part of his family. He offered his daughter to David. But David couldn’t fathom the idea of being a
part of the royal family.
It helps us to understand better where David is coming from
to recognize that, unlike today, there was no such thing as “upward
mobility”. Whatever station in life you
were born into determined your social status until you died. These things rarely changed.
In David’s mind, he was a peasant. He came from a peasant family and was
considered the lowest member of his family at that. He had no business dreaming of becoming part
of the royal family. That didn’t
happen. To him, it was inappropriate. More than that, it was unfathomable.
So he declined. Who am I, and what is my
family or my clan in Israel, that I should become the king’s son-in-law? (1
Saul asked him again and he declined again:
Do you think it is a small matter to
become the king’s son-in-law? I’m only a poor man (1 Sam 18:23).
But then something changed his mind. Saul changed his approach. David was told that the king established a
price to enter into his family: Kill 100
Philistines and you’re in.
Now that was
something David could relate to. “I’ve
got an opportunity to earn my way in,” David thought. And without reservation, he did. And he married Saul’s daughter Michal.
It’s interesting to observe the mindset of David because it
is often the mindset you and I have: God
offers an invitation to us to come into a place of deeper relationship and
greater blessing. But if we cannot
figure out a way where we can earn our way – where we actually somehow deserve
to be there, we can’t even consider the abundant grace the Father wants to
lavish on us.
Here’s the word the Holy Spirit spoke to me about this as I
was meditating on this passage:
Do not let what you
think you can achieve limit what you can receive from me. Saul had ulterior motives when he gave David
the invitation to come closer. My motive
is only that I delight in you.
I want to bring you to
a place of greater blessing and deeper intimacy. Stop looking for a way to earn it. Just receive it. Accept my invitation and enter in.